We came to the BORO to roll the workout Dice, we had over 90 Squats! More than 3 Minutes of Crunches and named two FNGs.
The 3rd F was about the Book No More Mr. Nice Guy
Here’s some Key points from the book
Takeaway
- A series of societal shifts have broken the bond between boys and their fathers.
- Boys have grown up without a healthy male role model and have as a result adopted a feminized version of masculinity called the Nice Guy Syndrome.
- Nice Guys force themselves to live according to a set of rules they have acquired in their childhood as a result of not getting their needs met.
- The pattern goes like this: I have needs -> they’re not met, probably because I am bad -> I have to be good to get my needs met.
- Nice Guys believe that they have to do everything well to satisfy everyone and get their needs met.
- Doing so, they cut themselves from their core masculinity which prevents them from being happy and fulfilled.
- They expect other people to fulfill their needs as a result of them being “good boys”, and become rageful and frustrated when they don’t.
- To recover, Nice Guys must understand that they have to put their needs a priority, change the way they think and act, face their fears, and express themselves clearly.
What No More Mr. Nice Guy Talks About
No More Mr. Nice Guy is a book written by the psychiatrist Dr. Robert Glover. It explains how societal changes have led young boys to hopelessly seek everyone’s approval constantly. They try their best to be “good boys”, get split from their core masculine identity, and struggle in their daily lives as a result. The book is a proven method to help men reclaim their masculinity and get the life they desire.
I noticed lately that I had a tendency to lack assertiveness, so I read The Assertiveness Workbook but I didn’t find it good enough. I remember that No Mr. Nice Guy, which I read in 2017, was much better, so I decided to re-read it.
This book is by far the best book for men’s mental health.
10/10. If you’re a man and you’re struggling in your life, read it (do not let the ugliest cover in the history of books discourage you).
If you have never read it, do yourself a favor and buy a copy. Don’t read the summary.
If you have read it though, this is the best summary on the Internet (!!).